It is within us to explore and draw upon our inner resources to heal.
Some wounds are embedded so deeply that no amount of professional expertise can cure, much less heal.
A famous Yale surgeon says that as a surgeon,
he cuts into the body, but he can not order the
wound to heal. Ultimately, it is through our efforts
that healing can occur.
The path to healing is a personal choice. It is a path
where you choose to piece together the fragments
and make it" whole" again. It paves the way to
self-discovery, to open the door to your inner self
and experience inner harmony. And ultimately, come to
meet the child within that has longed for your love ,
care and attention. The child within that is forgotten,
pushed to the background, lurks in the shadows,
but patiently waits to be acknowledged.
WHAT NEEDS HEALING?
Childhood trauma:
The imprints of childhood experience is a powerful
force. An expectant mother who lives through a stressful
situation during pregnancy share the burden with
the unborn child. Years ago,domestic matters were
never discussed openly, especially issues about abuse,
violence,neglect , abandonment and other related matters.
Today, society is more aware of the potential or
actual existence of abuse and violence in the home.
Tragic that the innermost and safest sanctuary society
depends upon can be the most dangerous.These are
issues that take its toll on the young victims. They grow
up with wounds, carry them around like a heavy load
on their shoulders.Some never get over their trauma,
it turns up at the most unexpected moment to haunt them;
yet, there are those who are lucky enough to confront
it and use it to propel themselves to a healthier mind,
body and spirit, successful relationships and life itself.
When love is a venom:
How many hearts have known pain all in the name of love.
It invades lives from all walks of life, social status,
add to that race or creed.No one wants to suffer pain,
but it does happen. Healing a broken heart, picking up
the pieces of broken hopes and dreams, suffer the betrayal ,
endure shattered self-image, re-live the haunting
nightmares, the violation of one's innermost being,
soul and spirit...it can take a lifetime to heal.
The most traumatic of all is the violation that comes
from those who are supposed to provide a nurturing
environment to those who are entrusted to their care.
All in the guise of love.
Grief
The loss of a loved one can be most devastating.
Sometimes one did not have a chance to bid their
last farewell. It was all too sudden.Or one passes
away after a lingering illness, with the relief
that the suffering is over comes the grief of the loss.
At one point and time in one's life, grief is a reality.
Guilt
Wrong turns, wrong choices, wrong decisions-
we all take wrong turns, make wrong decisions and choices.
This is a human trait, even the saintliest of the
saints has experienced this. We stumble, we fall, but many
of us manage to get up and get on with life.The losses
incurred at times may be life-threatening, or at the cost
of financial comfort and security or worst, relationships
are threatened, lost ,sadly but innocently or unconsciously
someone else has to bear consequences and the sacrifice.
Wearing guilt on your sleeves, in your heart, in your being
invites negative vibrations and digs you deeper into the mire.
Take a look at those sad eyes,the window of the soul ,
and you'll know. However,this is not a dead-end!
Unfulfilled dreams and hopes
Live your dream,ride on the wings of hope- this will
not always work out. One day you wake up and realize
your dream never materialized and now you languish over
the many years you spent trying to pursue that dream!
All this while, time, opportunities and life passed you by .
Hope can lead to disappointment- realize this. When all
hopes are dashed , what have you got?
PATH TO HEALING:
Healing is a complex matter.
Who has never felt the pains of suffering, be it
physical, mental, emotional, material and spiritual
Even our dear Mother Earth is in desperate need of
healing from the abuse inflicted upon her through man's
recklessness,negligence and lack of respect.
There are avenues open to healing. One may choose to
spend time with a professional, seek comfort from related
groups,from family, but always, healing has to start
with oneself, from within that deep well of strength .
It takes determination to face up to your dilemma,
but, ultimately,it is most rewarding to regain your personal
power, self-confidence, learn to love yourself and enjoy
that inner peace and calm.It is important to acknowledge
the pain, to recognize the cause, to be able to integrate
the fragmented pieces and be willing to take it to the
next step to be "whole"again.Then, you will be able to
share love and peace with the world once again.
Healing extends beyond the physical state- when the pain
is so deep, the spirit, the soul also bear the pain.
It comes in hauntingly in the dark of the night ,
it fills a once loving heart with venom, it could
ravage a once healthy mind and body. Beneath a once
beautiful and graceful soul is the mask of vengeance.
Venom for venom.
BLOCKS TO HEALING
Sometimes, the path to healing is full of potholes.
Indeed, the path is covered with blocks, where healing
can not be accomplished,it's almost out of reach.
Impediments on the path:
denial, apathy, self-absorption and self-indulgence,
addiction, putting up walls and barriers, busy-bee
syndrome, compartmentalizing, isolation,withdrawal
from society, cynicism, loss of faith, trust and compassion,
self-pity, poor ?me syndrome, anger, fear of getting
hurt again, martyr complex, neurosis or psychosis,
aggressive/ oppressive behaviour, confrontational attitude
guilt complex, resignation, loss of motivation.
Sometimes, we hurt those we love most deeply,
likewise, we bear the pain they cause. Time is a
great healer, but don't take the painfully slow
route and miss out on what the world holds for you.
Let life flow for you and with you.
E N D .
About the author:
Bonnie Moss is enjoying retirement and spends her time pursueing
her dreams and other interests, especially writing. She writes inspirational
topics on spirituality with the use of tarot cards, aura, and
highlights the inspiration from within oneself by listening to
intuition and that "Inner Voice" we are all endowed with.
Visit her website: http://goldencupcafe.tripod.com
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