A friend has this quotation on his office wall: "I know worry works because nothing I worry about ever happens."
I think I must believe that, because I worry a lot -- and about the most insignificant things. I worry about the big things, of course, like health, relationships, and finances. But I'm also liable to fret about anything and everything that finds its way into my consciousness.
Because I spend so much time on worry, I've decided to embrace it with a personal research project. Maybe you'd like to join me.
Here are two avenues I'm exploring:
1) I practice catching myself at it. "Hey, I'm worrying again." During a recent morning swim, I caught myself worrying 10 times during one lap! I'm not kidding. On rare days when I don't have anything to worry about, I find something. What I've learned is that worry is a mental habit. I can change habits; I've done it before. There's hope.
2) My second approach is to practice presence. By this I mean stopping my thoughts. In my workshops, I ring a bell to help participants practice centering. The quieter we are, the longer we hear the bell. There's a lovely moment when we all listen . . . until the ring is barely audible . . . then just a memory. I relish that moment of quiet before my thoughts re-engage. There is no future or past, just Now. No worrying thoughts -- no thoughts at all. It's a peaceful place, which is why I stretch the moment. I want to strengthen the connection to something greater than my worries.
3) When I told my good friend Rosie about my worry project, she told me about her approach, which is to do one of three things: decide to address the issue right then; if you can't do anything about it at the moment, give yourself a time to address it later; or decide that it is not important and let it go. In other words, act on it, file it or throw it away.
4) Finally, one of Rosie's favorite worry stoppers (and mine) is to sing. Connect with your self, your creativity, and the place where everything really is okay.
Awareness and acknowledgment are the keys to changing our habits. Morihei Ueshiba, who founded aikido and spoke of it as the Art of Peace, said we must "always practice the Art of Peace in a vibrant and joyful manner." Perhaps my research project on worry will help me to lighten up, smile, and live each day in such a way.
Are you worrying? Stop your thoughts for a moment. Listen to the sounds around you, pay attention, and be present to this key moment. And smile . . . for no reason. You may find that's the best reason of all.
-----------------
? 2005 Judy Ringer, Power & Presence Training
About the Author: Judy Ringer is Founder of Power & Presence Training, specializing in unique workshops on conflict, communication, and creating a more positive work environment. Judy is also a black belt in aikido, and is writing her first book on the connection between aikido, conflict, and living a more purposeful life. To sign up for more free tips and articles like these, visit http://www.judyringer.com
Note: You're welcome to reprint this article as long as it remains complete and unaltered (including the "about the author" info at the end), and you send a copy of your reprint to http://www.judyringer.com.
professional maid services Deerfield ..Too much driving, too much shopping, too much rushing around,... Read More
One of the hardest forms of stress to avoid is... Read More
One of the best ways to combat stress and depression... Read More
Part 1: Recognize the importance of family stress managementJoe and... Read More
If you find symptoms of anxiety disorder in any of... Read More
Governements and businesses have regularly highlighted the costs of stress... Read More
Are you a person who has a keen imagination, a... Read More
Why is it that some people become totally stressed when... Read More
Do you have the desire for a stress free life?... Read More
In my experience, most of us spend a lot more... Read More
In his book, The 22 Non-Negotiable Laws of Wellness, author... Read More
Life is funny.Throughout the day, there are plenty of humorous... Read More
Rhodiola Rosea is the latest natural remedy to join the... Read More
In these times when companies are constantly down-sizing and right-sizing... Read More
File this one under the category of "watch your language."The... Read More
There are many kinds of daily grinds. In the U.S.... Read More
I am worried. I have been biting my nails for... Read More
More than two-thirds of visits to doctors' surgeries are for... Read More
When was the last time you took a day just... Read More
WHAT THE RESEARCH SAYSExperts in the stress management field have... Read More
If you suffer from insomnia of any kind, the chances... Read More
We strive for excellence in our lives, going at full... Read More
This anger management Practice draws on the dual wisdom of... Read More
"I'm stressed out."If you find yourself thinking--or saying--this on a... Read More
When it is all said and done, do you feel... Read More
quick home cleaning Lake Forest ..Many of my readers write to me about the tensions... Read More
If you have never tried combining your breathing exercises with... Read More
What do you think of when you see that word?... Read More
Q: "My career, though very very stressful, is one that... Read More
What is the greatest fear of man? Is it death?... Read More
Why Stress Management programmes don't work?It seems that every week... Read More
There are two types of anxiety:*Situational *Existential.Most of us experience... Read More
This anger management Practice draws on the dual wisdom of... Read More
One of the dumbest things I have ever done is... Read More
June is the month of the honey moon. Custom holds... Read More
Life can offer us many challenges having to do with... Read More
Think back a few years to the nine coal miners... Read More
In our article about Exercise & Stress, we looked at... Read More
A while back, I was in a minor fender-bender accident,... Read More
Caring for a chronically ill loved one can be one... Read More
How much attention is paid to one of the biggest... Read More
Success in recovery, or rather, staying in recovery, is dependent... Read More
Many people go through the motions during Christmas. If not... Read More
THE ENCHANTED SELF? teaches you how to access positive states... Read More
Stress, America's #1 health problem, is a leading cause of... Read More
Shit happens. I know this to be a fact, because... Read More
Stress can affect virtually any part of the body and... Read More
I recently received this e-mail message about stress management (author... Read More
Imagine driving down the road. You are driving with a... Read More
It is an inescapable fact, we live in a stressful... Read More
Stress Management |