Panic.
Heart racing. Palms sweating. Breathing rapid and shallow. Mouth dry. Knees knocking.
Whether it's a pop quiz, a job interview, a spider, an impromptu speech, a crowded elevator, a dirty restroom, the view from a cliff, a shot at the clinic, a flight across the ocean, a first kiss, or a trip to a crowded shopping center, we all have something that fills us with panic. In severe cases, we can develop anxiety disorders in which panic attacks occur at seemingly random moments.
Whether you have a case of the pre-speech jitters or a full-blown panic attack, the physical symptoms are easily recognized. However, what we need to see clearly are the thoughts going through our mind whenever we feel anxious.
No matter what triggers your personal panic parade-- complete with lively emotions, colorful thoughts, and sizzling sensations--there is one key element that gets the party started.
No, it's not just stress. It isn't your personality type. It's not solely your past memories or the way your mother raised you or your particular physical challenges.
It is simply this: you are lacking in self-esteem.
Okay, now did you automatically start with the "But I am perfectly confident! I am totally competent! I feel just fine about myself!" rebuttal? Ah, good. Watch that.
We just hate it when someone suggests we might not have rock-solid self-esteem, and yet we are pros when it comes to bashing ourselves. Aren't we funny?
We'd rather believe that our anxiety is due to biological factors so we can take a pill to deal with it. But masking panic is not the same as managing panic. If you want to transcend your anxiety, you've got to get to the bottom of it.
The truth is that we only panic about things we don't feel confident handling.
If we don't handle a particular situation well, we dread the next time we must face it. We doubt that we will ever handle it skillfully even if we have done so in the past. We worry about it--and then worry about worrying! Fearful avoidance becomes our new way of responding.
Before we know it, we're stuck in panic purgatory.
Insert mindfulness here. Don't ask for anxiety--ask your anxiety. Focus on the first thought you have when that panic starts bubbling up and gently ask, "Why? Watch...then ask again. Play through several "why" cycles-and learn.
Panic is simply misguided attention. We must learn to watch the ROOT (some element requiring greater self- esteem) instead of the RESULT (all-night panic party) of our anxiety.
Ask your anxiety and listen carefully. Use mindfulness to help you redirect your attention, and you will learn to disconnect that panic button for good.
Maya Talisman Frost is a mind masseuse in Portland, Oregon. Through her company, Real-World Mindfulness Training, she teaches eyes-wide-open ways to get calm, clear and creative. To subscribe to her free weekly ezine, the Friday Mind Massage, visit http://www.massageyourmind.com
disinfecting cleaning services Arlington Heights ..Insomnia is usually the result of the modern way of... Read More
Q: Someone told me that the Chinese symbol for crisis... Read More
Among the hardest parts of living in the modern world... Read More
Statistics tell us that more people have migraine headaches on... Read More
Preparing for sleep the night before is the place to... Read More
In order to understand stress better, it is a good... Read More
What do you do when you wake up in the... Read More
We all know what it feels like to have our... Read More
With how busy we keep ourselves on a day to... Read More
One of the ways I have avoided a lot of... Read More
Q:We recently had someone come to our company to talk... Read More
Are you a person who has a keen imagination, a... Read More
Did you ever feel like your "get-up-and-go" got up and... Read More
Looking for all of the answers in how to manage... Read More
The right amount of stress can be good for you,... Read More
CHICAGO - According to a recent article in the September... Read More
We all have it; we live with it daily: stress.... Read More
We are currently living in a capitalist society where money... Read More
Workplace stress is on the rise and it's costing corporate... Read More
Do you feel that you just don't have the time... Read More
Defending your point of view can use up a lot... Read More
It's no secret that we women, by virtue of our... Read More
Meditation seems to have arrived in the mainstream of late,... Read More
It is very true that, unfortunately, many people look to... Read More
Q. I've suffered a few setbacks and disappointments in the... Read More
bathroom cleaning service Mundelein ..10 Ways to Monitor Corporate Stress LevelsGood military leaders work... Read More
Stress is defined as a response by your body to... Read More
Do you get out of your car with a queasy... Read More
* Play Romane's stress control seminar recordings, and read "The... Read More
Have you ever noticed what occurs when you are suddenly... Read More
Tough leaders are usually seen as ogres. Their exacting demands... Read More
This is the time for daydreaming about your annual vacation.... Read More
Feeling stressed out lately? Don't worry, there is a simple... Read More
"One day I'm a mother, One day I'm a lover,... Read More
We all have it; we live with it daily: stress.... Read More
Have you recently moved or started a new job? Do... Read More
We all know that stress levels in the workplace are... Read More
The main problem in a down economy is that workplaces... Read More
June is the month of the honey moon. Custom holds... Read More
We've all been there, right? We find ourselves living with... Read More
In a hectic world, it's all too easy to reach... Read More
It is an inescapable fact, we live in a stressful... Read More
Matthew 11:28 Come unto me, all ye that labour... Read More
Loneliness and separation are the real illness of our times.... Read More
Did you know that more than half of our adult... Read More
Stress is the nastiest 4 letter word you ever met.... Read More
Life is funny.Throughout the day, there are plenty of humorous... Read More
I love a good story and I know I'm not... Read More
Have you ever listened to someone, perhaps even to your... Read More
Punch a pillowScream into a pillowTurn on your favorite music... Read More
Stress Management |