Author and speaker H. Stephen Glenn has said,
"In terms of the entire world, if, when you wake up in the morning, you have a choice of what to eat, a choice of what to wear, a job to go to and a way to get there, you have abundance."
And yet we squander that abundance so often by not making choices in our lives. We allow life to just happen to us, instead of choosing what we believe to be best for us. We have enough abundance to create and live our best life, and yet we lose out by choosing not to. We have very weak choice muscles.
So the question becomes:
are you a chooser or a loser?
If that sounds harsh, well, so be it. It's a harsh reality.
How to be a loser
Allow life to just happen to you.
Play the victim role.
Complain without taking any action.
Believe you have no power to influence yourself or others.
Take the "dead roach approach" to events that occur in your life _ lying flat on your back with your legs wiggling in the air and whatever happens, happens.
Believe in silly sayings such as "waiting for the other shoe to drop" and "bad things always come in threes." These are classic self-fulfilling prophecies.
Take a reactive approach to life - do not use you brain.
Ask really useless questions like "why does this always happen to me?" while whining "this is not fair!"
Play it safe and don't take risks _ prefer the safety of mediocrity over the chance to go for want you want in life.
Set very low expectations for yourself and then consistently fail to live up to them.
How to be a chooser
Realize - get it - that you have choices!
Take a proactive approach to your life.
Expect success and for things to go well and go your way.
Set high expectations for yourself, higher than others expect of you, and then exceed them.
Pick a direction in which to head and then pursue it with all you have got.
Be creative. So many people limit themselves by telling me that they are just not creative. My response is "Do you worry?" Answer _ "Yes, of course. All the time." Then you know how be creative. Worrying is simnply being creative in a negative, limiting way. Creativity is simply this: "looking at something that has always been there and seeing something that has never been seen before."
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