Deceiving? You bet they are. How? Without your even knowing it, the effects of anger, frustration, and resentment can take a toll on your life. Chances are, it's happening right now. But most people are not - no, correction, do not want to be intuitive enough to figure out what's going on. The reason? It takes a certain amount of self study - it may sound a bit ludicrous, but the truth is the vast majority of people don't want to take a good hard look at theire inner selves. It's unfortunate, too, because the reward for doing so are fantastic, it's inexplainable. There is nothing like self honesty - when you really decide to know the real you, you've taken a serious step. After the decision must come action.
So, how do we tackle this? Well, you're not expected to be a master overnight. But the good news is that there are people who devote their entire lives to helping individuals get in tune with their real selves. Just seeking the assistance of someone is scary to some - scary enough to not do anything about it - that's unfortunate, too. Think about it - a person will possess unhealthy inner attitudes that are hurtful to him or her and yet will hold onto that unhealthiness just to keep their "ego" in tact - seeking help is a threat to that ego for some. The same ego, by the way, that's responsible for ruining their lives on some level. Even with the surge of self help materials out there, the majority of people won't take that first step of admitting that maybe - just maybe - there's something they need to know that they don't already. Wanna know something? Most of the time - 99% of the time - there is something to be gained from the use of effective materials. For example, if you were curious enough to investigate how anger and resentment just might be residing inside you without your knowing about it, an investment in a self help tool like It's A Mad House by Dr. Sandra Nelson will open your eyes faster than you can clean your house - you got it - stuff like this works. The Biggest Lie You Tell Yourself by Dr. Nelson is another eye-opener that will knock your socks off. (Both of these are available at www.Tell-Me-About-It.com) What's it take? Just a little desire to see "beyond the obvious" from your own point of view. Somehow, most of us were brought us with this mindset that we know the anwers we need to know. There are some exceptions out there - but they're rare. Our own ego - the very thing we want to preserve and protect - is the demon that's taking quality out of our lives! Can you believe it? Well, you might as well - because that what most people in life are doing.
If you stop to think about it, isn't it easier to believe that what you know and how you experience life on a day to day basis is really the way things are supposed to be? Of course! That's what they mean by staying in your "comfort zone." Admitting "I just don't know what's best for myself" is quite uncomfortable to most people. It's a shame, too. It's like the person whose been sick for days and days who becomes comfortable with staying in bed. A friend might know that getting out of that bed and walking a little would get him or her out of the slump, but that's not their mindset now! Try to tell them that. Oh, you can talk - but it's his or her comfort zone that will rule the situation - yes, even if it means spiting themselves. That's just an analogy, but the same concept applies almost eveyone each and every day. If this strikes a chord within you, that's really good news. Why? Because a part of you is honest enough to know that something's not quite right. Go with it and be willing to explore it. Aren't you worth it? You are more than worth that kind of time. Is it possible that you have inner resentments from your past that you've held onto for months or years, but you've done a pretty slick job of covering them up? YES! Are you willing to admit this? Are you willing to admit this? Well are you?
What will you do about it?
Ellen W.
Providence, RI
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