Evaluations are a tremendous resource to help us know where we have been and how to get where we want to be. One very overlooked person who would give us a very insightful evaluation is our friend. Our friend? Yes! Think about it: They know you better than anyone. They see you in the greatest amount of diversity. They know about all areas of your life. They could possibly give you the best evaluation you have ever had.
So why do we need to do something formal like this? Why don't they just give us their thoughts throughout the relationship? Primarily because most friends won't, in the routine of our friendships, volunteer their true feelings, especially the ones they think we may perceive as negative. Most people simply keep their thoughts to themselves in order to keep the relationship "safe."
So there is a warning here. This is not for someone who would be offended by their friend's remarks. You need to go into this understanding that they care for you and have your best interests at heart and that you asked for the input! If you decide to go for it, here are some good questions to ask your friend. (Note: if you want some anonymity for your friends, give the evaluation to three or four friends and let them do it anonymously. You will still get their insight and they can feel a little less awkward.)
What is my greatest strength as a person? What is my greatest strength as a professional?
What are three issues you think I need to address in my life?
What is my greatest weakness?
On a scale of 1-10, how do you feel I handle my money, given my desire for long-term financial health?
On a scale of 1-10, how do you feel I handle my health, given my desire for long-term physical health?
On a scale of 1-10, how do you feel I handle my emotions, given my desire for long-term financial health?
On a scale of 1-10, how do you feel I handle my spirituality, given my desire for long-term spiritual health?
On a scale of 1-10, how do you feel I handle my relationships, given my desire for long-term relational health?
In the preceding 5 questions, why did you answer as you did?
What one thing do you think I could start doing today that would most drastically increase the quality of my life?
What one thing do you think I could stop doing today that would most drastically increase the quality of my life?
What is the biggest obstacle you think I will need to overcome in order to see my dreams come true?
When your friend has given you the questionnaire back, take him or her out for a cup of coffee and spend some time talking about it. Remember, you are there to understand and learn from someone who cares about you, so ask questions and listen - don't defend yourself!
This will not only help you in your life and work, it will probably deepen your friendship!
About The Author:
Chris Widener is a popular speaker and writer as well as the President of Made for Success, a company helping individuals and organizations turn their potential into performance, succeed in every area of their lives and achieve their dreams.
To see Chris "live" at the upcoming Jim Rohn Weekend Event as he speaks on the subject of Secrets of Influence go to http://chris-widener.inspiresyou.com/ or call 800-929-0434.
Ancona limousine airport .. Lockport Chicago limo O’HareBe weary and leery when it comes to standardized tests... Read More
Reading is an integral part of our daily work lives.... Read More
Success is a journey and along the way we need... Read More
Clown around Among the Plains Indians, heyoka, or sacred clowns,... Read More
An old fable tells about a religious man and a... Read More
We've all been driving down the road and seen those... Read More
Critics can destroy or inspire you. Your own self critic... Read More
If you are sick and tired of the dreaming phase... Read More
Knowing when to disconnect, shut it off, unplug, or walk... Read More
Recently I stumbled across a list of Microsoft Interview questions... Read More
Personal power is an INSIDE JOB. It doesn't mean getting... Read More
This past Memorial Day weekend I decided to revisit my... Read More
The Chicago Times once printed that Henry Ford was an... Read More
The HungryIn May of 2005 there were over 2 million... Read More
Do you still keep that all important 'Inner Spark Alive'?... Read More
Finding balance is deciding to notice what goes on in... Read More
I can tell, with 95% accuracy, if you are going... Read More
Why is it that most people still equate being successful... Read More
We speak every day without fully recognizing the impact our... Read More
Commit yourself to spending time only with people who are... Read More
Let's set the scene. You're in a packed stadium. It's... Read More
Can anyone become a successful businessperson? I am asked this... Read More
Do you remember when you were a child and no... Read More
I got a big reminder over the last couple of... Read More
If you are looking for a surefire strategy to ensure... Read More
Buffalo Grove cheapest limo ..Personal missions statements (PMS) are just nothing but the winning... Read More
Too many times in the pursuit of our dreams, we... Read More
Jim Rohn, the success guru and mentor, said, "Failure is... Read More
Measure twice, cut once Just as in carpentry, making sure... Read More
Last Thursday evening, I was the guest of a group... Read More
Why everything has to be so hard? What have I... Read More
Since December 1st 2004, I have written one article or... Read More
Recently, I coached a young woman whom I'll call Mary... Read More
Hey Future Millionaire,There's so much value in reading about the... Read More
Who wants to carry on being a failure?Failure. Not a... Read More
In the first part of this article you learned some... Read More
Back from my amazing summer excursion, a month long drive... Read More
Signs of DiscontentYou don't need a degree in psychology to... Read More
"Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence.... Read More
Business knowledge and skills are not the only keys to... Read More
Sit up straight! You may recall hearing those words as... Read More
In this week's New Age Notebook, I am going to... Read More
Often, what people say about other people behind their backs... Read More
The starting point of all great success and achievement is... Read More
I recently was made aware of two comparative statistics that... Read More
Wealth is more than money. It's abundance, or as the... Read More
Frederick W. Smith attended Yale University and wrote a paper... Read More
OK, so here we are. We've switched the calendars out... Read More
We are repeatedly told that we should forget about unpleasant... Read More
In this brief article we will explore four methods that... Read More
Success |