Are you a worrier? Do you frequently spend time and energy worrying about your finances, your children, your career, world politics? Worry can be a highly useful, brilliantly engineered cue to action or a useless and destructive energy drain. The challenge is to decide which it is, on a case-by-case basis, and manage yourself accordingly.
Here is a quick and dirty, but highly effective way to manage your worrying habit.
1. Learn to recognize when you are worrying.
This takes practice. You may not recognize yourself worrying until you've been at a particular worry for days or weeks. But whether you catch yourself in the first minute or the first month, the most important step is recognizing the pattern. You can develop your "witness" over time and become more proficient in noticing when you are worrying.
2. Determine if something needs to be done.
Ask yourself, "Is the worry a cue to action?"
3. If something needs to be done, get it done as soon as possible.
Often just deciding to take the action can loosen worry's grip on you. But it's critical that you follow through -- take that action as soon as it is feasible.
4. If nothing needs to be done, release the worry.
For most people, relinquishing the worry is the hardest part. If you generally let worry run unchecked, you know that it's a very greedy energy that will take as much of your attention as you let it. It will reduce your effectiveness and productivity. Some serious boundary-setting with yourself is required here.
Experiment with the following strategy. In your mind, respond to the worry with something like this: "Thank you for sharing. I appreciate your concern (this is important). But there is nothing more to be done right now, so I'm going to stop thinking about this." Then get yourself to focus on something else ? find something else compelling and engaging to think about. You might line up some contenders in advance. Just about anything that works for you will do.
Sooner or later, the worry will return. Repeat steps 1 through 4 as needed. This is an iterative process. Hang in!
Here is a short list of some of the worries that my clients have learned to deal with more effectively:
Do you need help figuring out whether a worry merits action or how to disarm a stubborn worry-habit? Invest in yourself and get the help you need. Coaching can make a difference. contact me for an initial consultation at no charge.
Copyright, Sharon Teitelbaum, 2005.
Sharon Teitelbaum is a Work-Life and Career Coach who works with high achieving women with young children, people at mid-career, and professionals seeking greater career satisfaction or work-life balance. Her book, Getting Unstuck Without Coming Unglued: Restoring Work-Life Balance, is available at her website, contact me.
Certified as a Professional Certified Coach (PCC), Sharon works by phone with clients around the world and in-person in Boston.
She delivers keynotes and workshops on work-life balance issues, has been in national publications including The New York Times and Working Mother Magazine, and has appeared on cable and network television. She publishes contact me, a newsletter offering practical tips for work-life success.
Sharon has been married for 30 years and is the mother of two amazing young women. You can contact her contact me.
last minute cleaning help Arlington Heights ..This is one more article on "Organizing and Enjoying Your... Read More
One of the most challenging situations people face when planning... Read More
The techies could do a lot more to make our... Read More
Women's health issues often are focused on goals to reach:... Read More
How many of us are guilty of "Putting the cart... Read More
"At my back I always hear time's winged chariot hurrying... Read More
41 practical and quick ways to get on top of... Read More
What keeping time really means is...being on time!You know, there... Read More
If you can regularly ask yourself "Am I regularly and... Read More
If you can motivate yourself at will to get any... Read More
How can you get an extra hour out of each... Read More
"Because there will always be something more to do, we... Read More
In this fast and crazy world, we want to multi-task... Read More
Most of us know how to manage our time. It... Read More
Zak is my three-year old godson. He is the apple... Read More
So What Then Is The Opposite Of Procrastination? Urgency is... Read More
There are the golden rules that apply to time. If... Read More
Would you describe yourself as extremely busy? Do you often... Read More
Most of us have a to-do list ? some of... Read More
I am an ordinary man - A middle class high... Read More
Whatever providence has in store for us tomorrow is not... Read More
Work more efficiently and be more productive using these time-management... Read More
Are you a worrier? Do you frequently spend time and... Read More
Still awaiting the birth of my baby (I am overdue),... Read More
Many folks tell me that they just don't have time... Read More
same day cleaning service Wilmette ..My job in Chicago began with three months of probation.I... Read More
How do you know what's the best use of your... Read More
"The bad news is time flies. The good news is... Read More
It's always a challenge finding time to clean my house.... Read More
As a professional organizer, consultant and trainer, I have come... Read More
Last week I had the privilege of spending some quality... Read More
I have a habit of sending a thank you letter... Read More
There is an old way of goal setting and a... Read More
Goal Planning-Achieving balance in a person's life requires assessment of... Read More
If you have ever missed an appointment, forgotten to pick... Read More
Any habit of mind or body that interferes with taking... Read More
Riding the subway home yesterday, my typically silent car was... Read More
Most of us have a to-do list ? some of... Read More
Everyday, in life, we are bombarded with 101 tasks that... Read More
"There is never enough time, unless you're serving it." -Malcolm... Read More
We are constantly inundated with routine (often boring!) tasks around... Read More
I give presentations on organizational skill building as it relates... Read More
If you can motivate yourself at will to get any... Read More
I keep a fossil on my desk at all times.... Read More
TIME MANAGEMENTWith the creation of the universe, God gave humankind... Read More
How can you get an extra hour out of each... Read More
In our time-crazed society, lots of time is what most... Read More
My husband and I recently returned from a trip to... Read More
All too often we can feel overwhelmed by the amount... Read More
Time - it is the one thing that we are... Read More
Time Management |