Here's a letter from my email:
Dear Carol,
I took your teleclass two years ago (I think). I reflect so often on everything the class covered that it seems like it was much more recently that I took the course.
I am much better at recognizing what situations, people or foods will trigger a binge. I am very cognizant of what foods make me feel bad and what foods make me feel good physically.
I can go for weeks eating a very healthy diet but I always end up in a binge cycle again. I have lost 20 lbs and have 20 more to go.
To say that this has been any easy road is far from the truth. I find myself in the midst of a binge right now. Of course, the toughest part is getting back on track.
One would think that I would be happy that I have lost 20 lbs but how I really feel is disappointed with myself that I allowed myself to get so out of shape.
I feel angry that I worked hard to lose those 20 lbs but I still can't fit into many of my clothes. I just want this last 20 lbs to be gone but I know I have to put some effort into that happening.
Will this cycle ever stop? I know this was all covered in the course and your e-book (which I loaned to a friend and never got back) but actually connecting the dots between knowing what to do and actually doing it don't seem to stick with me for more than a few weeks at a time.
Thanks for all of the wonderful support you offer every week in your newsletter.
Deidre Robinson
Hi Deidre,
I think your situation is a good example of how easy it is to get stuck.
Yes, you might think that you would be happy and be able to celebrate your success.
But it is just too easy to focus on what you haven't done, or where you haven't been successful.
Believe me; many people would love to be in your shoes.
Besides losing 20 pounds, your successes include being more aware of what situations can trigger a binge, of what foods make you feel good or bad, and for being able to go for weeks eating healthy.
The problem comes when you go off the healthy eating path onto a detour and what you tell yourself when that happens.
That might be things like "this will NEVER be any different" or "I am ALWAYS going to have this problem" or "I will NEVER be able to control myself.
Notice the extreme thoughts. Since when did weight loss become such an all or nothing proposition?
Getting back on track requires that you are kind and gentle to yourself, that you analyze and learn from the situation, that you get support for yourself if you need it, that you focus more on what you HAVE done than what you HAVEN'T done, and that you consider it more of a detour than a crash.
You also might think about what it would mean for you to lose those last 20 pounds.
Is there anything uncomfortable about that?
Something is causing you to sabotage yourself just when things are going well.
It is critical to your success to figure this out and break the pattern.
It is the key to bridging the gap between KNOWING what to do and doing it.
Warm personal regards,
Carol Solomon, Ph.D.
PS - Deidre, congratulations on your weight loss, and I am attaching another copy of the book.
Hi Carol,
Thank you so much for your wise words. I have also wondered why I keep sabotaging my efforts at losing these last 20 pounds. I hope to figure this out very soon.
Thank you so much for the ebook. This will not leave my possession for any reason.
Thank you again for your continued support and wisdom.
Deidre
Carol Solomon, Ph.D. is a psychologist and personal coach who specializes in helping people who want to lose weight and eliminate food and weight issues.
By going from food obsessive to charge neutral (i.e. Did I eat today?), she became dedicated to making it easy for others to step off the vicious cycle and live free of anxiety about food and weight.
She is the author of "Lose Weight Now Stay Slim Forever," a practical "how-to" manual for learning to lose weight without dieting.
Sign up for her free email newsletter, Slim Forever at: http://www.lose-weight-now-stay-slim-forever.com
http://www.lose-weight-now-stay-slim-forever.com
http://www.lose-weight-now-stay-slim-forever.com
You know you have will-power. You can change a diaper... Read More
These days, Jennifer Secrist has little interest in idle activities.... Read More
Wanna know the truth? If you're going to... Read More
The chemistry sounds very straightforward. Human body fat is a... Read More
Although it is obviously not possible to turn the clock... Read More
Gastric bypass patients face a great task in the following... Read More
If your health and fitness are important to you, you... Read More
There are many factors that cause us to increase body... Read More
If you pick the right personal trainer?you'll most definitely see... Read More
Are you up to a cave man diet? You won't... Read More
Nitrates and nitrites are preservatives that are added to certain... Read More
From driving up your blood pressure and cholesterol, to increasing... Read More
One-size-fits-all diets don't work....but then you probably know that already.... Read More
Axiom Number One - Nourish your body.Probably the most important... Read More
Cellulite ? a word most women are very familiar with.... Read More
Adverse Events with Volumetrics Dr. Barbara Rolls is a well... Read More
Its crowded..really crowded..every other site offers Weight Loss Programs and... Read More
If you are like everyone else who has hit rock... Read More
Many individuals these days, male or female, young or old,... Read More
An ancient practice from Eastern Medicine, bowel cleansing is fast... Read More
Recently, I was reading about a diet plan where you... Read More
Now that the temptations of the Holiday season have passed... Read More
Are you weighted down with delusion, depression and on the... Read More
What does it take to lose weight?When it comes to... Read More
There are many books and internet articles written about weight... Read More
house cleaning company Bannockburn ..A client wrote, "Help me! I thought I was finally... Read More
If you want to reduce your body fat, focus on... Read More
Fighting obesity has become one of the most important issues... Read More
Obesity is quickly becoming the number one health issue confronting... Read More
Cellulite is probably one of the most embarrassing of all... Read More
From the book Spider's Big CatchLike many people, I've decided... Read More
IntroductionObesity is the most common health problem facing children today.... Read More
Doctor, Why Can't I Loose Weight and by the... Read More
I was overweight at my age. It's not a pretty... Read More
Addicted to Restaurants Are you addicted to restaurants? So are... Read More
In the early nineties I had the opportunity to work... Read More
Are you tired of getting the same old advice when... Read More
Cleansing: How to Kickstart your Alkaline LifestyleDue to the highly... Read More
Almost everyone has attempted to follow diets and weight loss... Read More
People always ask me " how it is that your... Read More
How to burn fat fast is a question that burns... Read More
This article is about making long-term changes in the foods... Read More
The importance of drinking water is mentioned in almost every... Read More
Low carb diets can be classified as food plans that... Read More
Humanity is always in search of a wonder drug that... Read More
You need to reset your weight-o-stat. No matter how much... Read More
Do you know this year Florida will go through a... Read More
The Atkins diet Plan breakfast can usually composed of eggs... Read More
Summer is about to be in full swing, and it's... Read More
If only there were a 'better body boot camp', we'd... Read More
Weight Loss |