Maybe you've heard about body dysmorphia ? it's a mental image many victims of anorexia nervosa have that tells them they look fat, even when they are emaciated. Bariatric patients can suffer from body dysmorphia as well.
When we were morbidly obese our emotional coping mechanisms kicked in and many of us were able to convince ourselves we really weren't that big. It is emotionally kinder to avoid body criticism, the whole issue seems hopeless. In fact, many morbidly obese patients will say they see themselves normal sized. That is until a rude moment reminds them they are not normal sized: a skinny chair, a turnstile, a bathroom stall, a flight of stairs, a photograph. This false perception is a subconscious coping strategy to protect us from the brutal truth, the truth about how big morbidly obese really is.
My sister and I were clothes shopping one day with our morbidly obese mother. She tried an outfit and complained to us, "but it makes me look fat." And gently we told her, "Mom, you are fat." Intellectually my mother knows she is morbidly obese, but the emotional issues run over reason and she doesn't see herself fat. She is in serious denial that is preventing her from getting the help she needs ? bariatric surgery ? to save her life.
After surgery, there is a tendency for the body dysmorphia to reverse. Before surgery we denied how big we were, after surgery we judge ourselves critically ? like the anorexic ? and fail to see an honest reflection. One woman, down from size 24 to size 10 wrote, "I feel fat daily. I never felt this at 248 pounds ? I saw a thinner person in the mirror than I see now. I look at my size 10 jeans and they look like tents. I don't feel as attractive as I did when I was heavy. I don't understand it," she continued, "but I think it has to do with learning to accept yourself fat so you didn't see all the fat. Now I just have to learn to accept myself as thinner."
Many patients report hyper-judging their figures after weight loss. It seems the thinner you get the more judgmental of your body you become. To this day, the first thing I see in my reflection in my pudgy tummy ? I think it's enormous. I don't see long slender legs or a tiny waist or trim arms. I see a Buddha belly. I've even apologized for my chubby tummy to others when they compliment my new figure. The apology usually goes, "Yes, but I can't get rid of this stomach." I say this while pointing to my "flaw".
That is wrong and brutally unfair to myself. I am working daily to keep this hyper-judgment in check, reminding myself the days of belittlement and self-loathing are over. Now is the time when I love myself.
Patients report universal success when they do one thing in the face of body dysmorphia: dress to impress! Get rid of the flowing camouflage clothes and wear a smart, well fitted outfit. Gentlemen, tuck in your shirts in. Ladies, wear a fitted skirt with a waistband. Small sized "fat clothes" do nothing for body image ? dump that style and get something that flatters your new size. Enlist the help of friends you trust to find flattering clothes. Sometimes you have to force yourself to see your body as it is, a great fitting outfit will certainly do the trick.
Extreme cases of body dysmorphia after gastric bypass weight loss may be treated with counseling and psycho-therapy.
Kaye Bailey is a weight loss surgery success story having maintained her health and goal weight for 5+ years. An award winning journalist, she is the author and webmaster of http://www.livingafterwls.com and http://www.livingafterwls.com - Fresh & insightful content is added daily, check in often.
Copyright ? 2005 Kaye Bailey - All Rights Reserved.
disinfecting cleaning services Winnetka ..Some (not so) Silly Diet Tips and Why They're NotAt... Read More
The incidences of deseases like obesity, diabetes, colon deseases etc.are... Read More
If you know someone that has been trying to lose... Read More
Losing weight doesn't have to be boring when you focus... Read More
If it seems that you have been eating as usual... Read More
IntroductionObesity is the most common health problem facing children today.... Read More
First? establish realistic goals. Start with a target you can... Read More
Who really wants to lose weight? None of us, right?... Read More
When you have started a diet in the past, how... Read More
IntroductionThe history of The Atkins Diet goes back to the... Read More
I was overweight at my age. It's not a pretty... Read More
I personally lost 60 pounds in 2003. Here are some... Read More
R...real foodE...exerciseS...spiritual stuff first and the other stuff secondU...ultimately, you... Read More
Low carb diets, though popular, have met with much controversy.... Read More
The answer to the title of this article is "none."... Read More
I gotta confess: I'm completely addicted to crisps. Any kind... Read More
Unfortunately, obesity is reaching epidemic proportions, with over 60% of... Read More
I asked my sister to come to my gym with... Read More
Yes Virginia, the fail-safe weight loss formula exists.It's so simple,... Read More
The Liver The function of your kidneys is to filter... Read More
My name is Greg Ryan. I am a high profile... Read More
A healthy pregnancy almost always involves weight gain. But now... Read More
Abdominal liposuction refers to liposuction, or lipoplasty, that is performed... Read More
With this key, I GUARANTEE YOU WILL LOSE ALL THE... Read More
Obesity and overweight, weight reduction and weight management therapies, miracle... Read More
last minute cleaning help Highland Park ..If your low carb diet is going nowhere, maybe its... Read More
Ever thought of, known someone, or gone on a diet?... Read More
The most recent shocking news related to Atkins diet UK... Read More
I want to talk to you about cows and what... Read More
In the early nineties I had the opportunity to work... Read More
Adaptation is the most important concept I teach. The human... Read More
Dieting doesn't have to be a chore. Actually, you can... Read More
Many people want to lose a few of those annoying... Read More
Now this is the real American Dream! I'm here to... Read More
Any dietary plan on the market has some portion of... Read More
I remember back in my senior year of high school... Read More
Many critics in have attacked low carb diets for only... Read More
Weight Loss and Water: A Way to Make Your Body... Read More
Everybody you know is on the latest weight loss bandwagon:... Read More
Do you know anybody who does not wish to get... Read More
Body Mass Index (bmi) A Misleading measure of ObesityMany professionals... Read More
Are you committed to losing weight and keeping it off?... Read More
"I'm too busy!" "I'm always on the run." "I... Read More
1. Carrying around excess body fat will decrease your energy... Read More
If You are sick of losing the same weight over... Read More
In today's bustling world we are constantly surrounded by media... Read More
Fat Burners refer to the hundreds of products on the... Read More
The long marginalized San tribe of South Africa has suddenly... Read More
Because the Internet allows so many millions of people to... Read More
Here are 5 solutions to slimming:1. Set Mini-Goals: Try setting... Read More
Weight Loss |