During holidays and parties you may try to "plan ahead" so you can avoid some of the rush. Last year at Christmas I realized I had to take three major dishes for Christmas Eve dinner and it suddenly dawned on me that I'd have to bake the cake the night ahead.
Baking a cake then waiting to eat it is not my favorite thing at all. I've always had a difficult time in making a cake a day ahead, in fact I tend to avoid receipes that say it needs to sit eight hours. (Whenever you catch yourself saying the word "always" that's a hint something to use EFT on is coming to mind and notice I said I always have a difficult time with this? That's when to use EFT).
My past behavior has been to want to eat the cake as soon as it's finished, so if it must wait for a day, it's torture. I also prefer making huge three and four layer cakes that take up the entire refrigerator causing me to see the cake and nothing but the cake every time I open the refrigerator door.
Practicing Patience in Eating
Patience can be practiced all day every day. It is necessary when dealing with strangers, family, and most of all yourself. Just because you usually give in to your immediate desires for food doesn't mean you must do so. Maybe you are trying to avoid feeling deprived but practicing and learning to exercise some patience may be of good use.
If I bake a lovely cake and see it in the refrigerator, it beckons to me. Knowing I cannot take a slice without ruining the presentation doesn't seem to help me avoid the siren call. I could be sitting, minding my own business, when I suddenly snap my head upright, as if I've heard a ghost, "Come and get a piece of cake," it calls to me. "I'm waiting," it cries. "Stupid cake, I think."
Leftover cake isn't such a big problem because I plan ahead to have at least one piece, sometimes two every day as long as it lasts. That's another reason I prefer baking to take it somewhere rather than just making it for home.
Rather than trying to analyze why I have this strange desire to eat cake, I'm just going to tackle it head-on with some EFT. I may also use the Swish Technique (taught in the Ending Emotional Eating workshop, Session 4).
If you've had similar struggles, try these suggested EFT phrases, or devise some for your situation. (EFT is easy to learn and use--see my site for worksheets and instructions specific to weight loss or visit http://www.emofree.com for general information on learning EFT).
===== EFT for Patience in Eating
While tapping the P.R. (psychological reversal) point say,
"Even though I want to eat the cake, except I'm not supposed to because it's for tomorrow's dinner party, I deeply and completely accept myself."
Repeat that statement three times and say it like you mean it.
Then tap the rest of the face and body points, using a short reminder such as, "eat cake." The entire time think about that cake and how much you want it and how delicious it would be. Make it as strong a desire as you can (this is how EFT gets a strong neuropathway to disrupt so don't fear you'll make your cravings stronger, it actually will do the opposite).
"Even though I can't stand waiting, I choose to give myself permission to wait."
Reminder: "Can't wait."
"Even though I hate this waiting and I'm going to stick my face in it right now, I deeply and completely accept myself anyway."
Reminder: "Hate being told what to do."
"Even though I can't seem to deny myself what I want, I deeply and completely love and accept myself and give myself permission to wait."
Reminder: "Can't deny."
Practice this on some food or beverage that seems to call to you, and see whether it helps ease that pull. If you are reluctant because you are afraid you'll lose the desire for the completely (and this is you favorite food so you don't want that to happen), don't worry. That's not going to happen. You may come to want it less often and certainly you'll no longer feel a compulsive need for it, but most people discover they still enjoy the food just as much, they just no longer feel out-of-control about it. The control issue is what is being addressed. The desire or compulsion to have something that seems beyond a rational desire, that is what you are working to reduce.
Smile today at every person you see, and practice patience. Think of an inside joke, remember a happy moment, or a funny movie you saw. Put a happy memory in your head and carry it around with you, then whenever you see someone just smile to yourself. Even in the crowded stores, people will treat you better when you put a happy bubble around yourself, and you'll lift their spirits as well.
~~ Kathryn Martyn, Master NLP Practitioner, EFT counselor, author of the free e-book: Changing Beliefs, Your First Step to Permanent Weight Loss, and owner of onemorebite-weightloss.com
Get onemorebite-weightloss.com: Inspirational Mini Lessons Using EFT and NLP for Ending the Struggle with Weight Loss.
personalized cleaning services Des Plaines ..For some of us, food is warmth and love. We... Read More
You've seen them a hundred times: "Before" and "After" pictures.... Read More
Let's take a look at how your attitudes and perceptions... Read More
Are you considering a low carb diet? If so you... Read More
Adaptation is the most important concept I teach. The human... Read More
Am I missing something here? If I am, someone please... Read More
? Can you give me an exercise that will get... Read More
Supporters of the Atkins Diet claim that a low carbohydrate... Read More
Your Non-Conscious Mind is 98% of your full power.Your Inner... Read More
As I explained in the first part of this article,... Read More
Each month I receive hundreds of e-mails from consumers who... Read More
In the early nineties doctors were beginning to see the... Read More
According to the BMI chart, if you are overweight, you... Read More
Things get so confusing when it comes to understanding what... Read More
Finding Mad Cow in Oregon puts a new wrinkle in... Read More
Reading labels is an essential part of any weight loss... Read More
For many years, the experts, including our government have been... Read More
Some of you will not like what I have to... Read More
Drink plenty of water. Our body needs a lot of... Read More
Plan to eat two to three hours and pack health... Read More
I am so grateful that you're taking steps to take... Read More
The low carb diet craze has become extremely popular amongst... Read More
If I Want to Lose Weight, What Can I Do... Read More
We all eat. But how mindful are we of every... Read More
For years the experts have been telling us that diets... Read More
family-safe home cleaners Arlington Heights ..These days, Jennifer Secrist has little interest in idle activities.... Read More
These fat burning tips can help you discover a fat... Read More
Do You Sometimes Eat Because You're Afraid You'll "Miss Out"... Read More
When we discover that we are heavier than we want... Read More
What is the relationship between intake of nutrition and metabolism... Read More
Speculating on the scientifically proven memory unreliability, the memory specialist... Read More
Gaining up to 20 pounds over four years can significantly... Read More
"Who are you to give me weight loss advice?" I... Read More
America's Obesity EpidemicAs the numbers of overweight Americans continue to... Read More
Lousy Reasons to Lose Weight"I want to be a size... Read More
For years we heard that a low-fat, low-cholesterol diet would... Read More
Did you say there's a way I can eat what... Read More
Lose Weight - Get A Break ---------------------------------------- The American Obesity... Read More
Using healthy low carb recipes are an important part of... Read More
"Life is like a box of chocolates," drawled Forrest Gump.Metaphors... Read More
Control that sweet tooth. Remember that sweet things generally mean... Read More
"The kind of thoughts that you plant in your mind,... Read More
Losing weight on hips and thighs has always been a... Read More
Obesity is a disease that affects approximately 60 million people... Read More
Are you overweight?Most people are afraid to admit they are.It... Read More
WOW!! Here we are on lesson #10. Hasn't it been... Read More
Have you been on a new diet for a couple... Read More
I wrote this article back in the late fall when... Read More
Getting Started on The Clean DietIf you want to lose... Read More
Oh, no . . . You suddenly realize that you... Read More
Weight Loss |