A client wrote, "Help me! I thought I was finally getting a handle on my weight issue but the sugar is killing me. I had an awful day. I won't even tell you what I ate today because it is just so unbelievable. All I will say is that 90% of my food today consisted of sugar! I really, really need some help getting past these cravings. I am no doubt a sugar addict. If I could get past this there is no doubt that I will reach my goal."
If you see a little of yourself in this message, you're not alone. Tens of thousands of people describe themselves as sugar addicts. They believe if it were only for that one thing, then they could reach their weight loss goals. If you believe only one thing stands in your way of losing weight, consider this: What if that one thing (an addiction to sugar for instance) were gone? Do you really believe, "If I could get past this, there is no doubt that I will reach my goal," or is it an easy excuse to stay stuck?
If I told you I could show you a way to stop craving sugar, would you want me to show you how? Think about that for a few minutes. Close your eyes and really think about it. You've said that is the answer and the only obstacle standing in your way. What if that one obstacle were removed? Would it solve the problem? How would your life change if that one obstacle were no longer an issue for you?
Would you eat differently, and if so how?
Would you act differently, and if so how?
What else would change, and what would stay the same?
Until you know what you want, know that you can achieve what you want, and know how your life will be different when you obtain what you want, you won't discover if there are any obstacles that first must be considered. For instance, you may want to stop eating dinner after 7 PM, yet your husband comes home at 8 PM and expects you to join him for dinner. That's an obstacle. If you don't overcome that obstacle through discussion and compromise with your husband, there's bound to be a problem. Determining in advance what might stand in the way, helps you achieve your goals more quickly.
The statement that "if this one thing were handled, then everything else would fall into place" is the type that gets people in trouble. They want a fairy godmother to make it all better. Holding a strong belief that one single thing (eatings sugar) holds the key, sets you up to fail. Especially if you particularly like eating sugar. Getting a handle on your cravigs is not an all-or-nothing proposition. You must leave room for occasional deviations. It's not the occasional side trip that gets us in trouble but the road we usually travel.
In the practice of NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) one common exercise in known as establishing a Well Formed Outcome. "Well formed" meaning it meets all the criteria of a well thought out end result. Here are the steps to deteremining a well formed outcome:
1) State what you want (not what you do not want).
2) Determine whether you can achieve it (do you believe it is possible?).
3) What resources do you have and what do you need (time, money, space, clothing, equipment).
4) Check whether anyone else is involved and any potential obstacles that may come up regarding others.
5) Picture yourself "as if" you've obtained what you say you want and decide if that picture fits.
6) Putting together a plan of action for the achievement of your outcome.
While it may seem like a lot of effort simply to decide what you really want, going through these steps help you determine what potential obstacles there may be. If you decide you want to join a gym and start exercising every day but forget you don't own a car and just lost your job, that plan might not work out. Better to look at it from every angle, then put together a plan you know can work and will work. By deciding what you want, it becomes much easier to take the necessary steps to make it become a reality.
Whether you want to overcome your addiction to sugar or you want to learn to swim, it all starts with this process, first determining what you really want and then a series of steps to be sure it's a good fit for you. Try this process no matter what decision you are making and you'll easily discover obstacles that you can handle first thereby ensuring better success overall!
This process is called "Achieving a Well Formed Outcome" and is one of the sessions in the Ending Emotional Eating 8-Week Workshop. You can also find more information on this popular and well known NLP process by searching for "NLP Well Formed Outcome" in your favorite search engine.
~~ Kathryn Martyn, Master NLP Practitioner, EFT counselor, author of the free e-book: Changing Beliefs, Your First Step to Permanent Weight Loss, and owner of onemorebite-weightloss.com
Get onemorebite-weightloss.com: Inspirational Mini Lessons Using EFT and NLP for Ending the Struggle with Weight Loss.
executive chauffeured services Bradford .. Madison to Airport carThe gastric bypass procedure isn't for everyone, but those who've... Read More
Low carb beer and lite beer are two different animals.... Read More
If you are among the millions of people searching for... Read More
I have had some e-mails come in and everyone is... Read More
Abdominoplasty, or "tummy tuck" is a major surgical procedure that... Read More
The chemistry sounds very straightforward. Human body fat is a... Read More
It is estimated that about 32 million Americans are following... Read More
One of the biggest misconceptions about exercise is that there... Read More
Millions of people spend billions of dollars, hoping to achieve... Read More
Obesity is defined as an excessive accumulation of body fat.... Read More
1. Increase your water intake to at least 1 gallon... Read More
Ever wondered why some people manage to keep their weight... Read More
REDUCE YOUR WEIGHTNow you are not very far from losing... Read More
Diet is one of the most controversial subjects around. Bring... Read More
It comes as a surprise to many consumers that the... Read More
Obesity is a disease that affects approximately 60 million people... Read More
Steady gains made in improvement in life expectancy may be... Read More
A common question among weight loss professionals...If fad diets don't... Read More
While it would be ideal to make all of our... Read More
When you talk about losing weight you're really talking about... Read More
Finding Mad Cow in Oregon puts a new wrinkle in... Read More
You gain weight when your calorie intake is more than... Read More
Close kept secrets to weight loss: Give me 9 days... Read More
On a little island half way in between Guam and... Read More
You and I know that getting plenty of support from... Read More
O'Hare Chicago prom limo ..A 'diet' is always seen as a temporary measure. An... Read More
There have been many diets and weight loss plans that... Read More
Adverse Events with Volumetrics Dr. Barbara Rolls is a well... Read More
Dieters are often told ? drink water. Drink a minimum... Read More
As if you needed another reason to hit the snooze... Read More
Have you ever wondered why some fat people can be... Read More
There are numerous ways to make a bad weight loss... Read More
We must all now be familiar with the Atkins Diet.... Read More
I get asked all the time, "what do you think... Read More
When you truly consider the weight-loss process, the battle waged... Read More
If you're like most people who tried losing weight on... Read More
What if by making a few small changes in your... Read More
Two basic approaches to losing weight; one approach is correct... Read More
Twenty years of health club consulting, 50,000 hours of paid... Read More
If only there were a 'better body boot camp', we'd... Read More
We all eat. But how mindful are we of every... Read More
People usually quit weightloss and exercise programs for one of... Read More
Weight loss can be a difficult goal to achieve. Some... Read More
The gastric bypass procedure isn't for everyone, but those who've... Read More
Cellulite is not a medical condition or an aesthetic mutiny... Read More
Cellulite ? a word most women are very familiar with.... Read More
Things get so confusing when it comes to understanding what... Read More
I am Greg Ryan, a high profile fitness expert with... Read More
Are you considering a low carb diet? If so you... Read More
Oh, no . . . You suddenly realize that you... Read More
Weight Loss |