If you have been dieting, there is a good chance you have lost weight. Unfortunately, large numbers of successful dieters quickly regain the poundage. If you wish to maintain the weight you have lost without developing substitute excesses such as overspending, overworking, excessive drinking or smoking, you must satisfy the emotional hunger that causes people to overeat. To do this you need to master two basic skills ? self-nurturing and setting effective limits. Self-nurturing is the ability to check our feelings and needs throughout the day in order to know and honor ourselves and better meet our needs. Setting effective limits is the skill of having reasonable expectations and following through with them. That enables us to take action and have more power and greater safety in our lives.
People who have mastered these two skills are far more likely to be healthy and happy. Learning them is not a quick fix and takes time. But, from the first moment you use them, you will begin to feel better and more satisfied. After these skills are used over and over again, they become integrated into our brains, and the changes are developmental, that is, we begin to feel as if we have a new life.
These are not new concepts. In fact, the essential elements of self-nurturing and setting limits have been part of the scientific literature since at least 1940. The problem is that the current methods used to help people lose weight, don't involve these skills. So, people lose weight then regain it and begin to believe that they cannot solve their weight problems. They feel powerless and discouraged. All that is unnecessary.
Our patterns for self-nurturing and limits skills were implanted early in life in the feeling brain. The various healing methods for feeling better and turning off the drive to overeat, which are based on insight, knowledge, or analysis, are processed by the thinking brain. Unfortunately, they target the wrong part of our brain. So, we know what we should eat, but we can't do it. The drives to overeat are too strong.
The Solution Method enables you to reach your feeling brain and retrain it will the skills of nurturing and limits. It's just like learning to type. The more you practice it, the sooner the skills become automatic. When they do, your inner life naturally favors a life in which the whole range of excesses (not just overeating, but overspending, overworking, drinking too much and smoking) fades. What follows is nothing less than a personal transformation. But, it requires time ? usually 18 months to master the basic skills. Group meetings, such as the support provided by the Buddy system, are key.
Until recently, most people were unaware of this method. That proved to be a blessing. It enabled us to study it in relative obscurity. We have been able to train thousands of people in this method.
While using The Solution, you will become aware that there are two worlds: the world above the line and the world below the line. With training, you pump your self-nurturing and limits skills so that you spend more of your day above the line or in a state in which you are emotionally balanced, spiritually connected and intimate with others. Moreover, the annoying drives that cause your excesses ? what we call "external solutions" ? fade. Life without the self-nurturing and limit setting skills forces you to spend too much time below the line. Life below the line keeps you out of balance. Your excesses flourish, and your life has few rewards.
There are a few explanations for why you lack these skills to nurture yourself and set limits. Modern life requires more skills. Earlier generations were faced with far fewer choices and a less changing society. Indeed, communities were more nurturing. Further, your parents may not have had the ability to teach you these skills. Because these skills are transmitted early in life and are harder to learn later in life, the legacy of imbalance is often perpetuated from one generation to another.
Self-nurturing and limits skills consist of clusters of questions that we ask ourselves over and over ? until they become automatic.
The following are the questions for the nurturing skills:
* How do I feel?
* What do I need?
* Do I need support?
The following are the questions for the limits skills:
* Are my expectations reasonable?
* Is my thinking positive and powerful?
* What is the essential pain? What is the earned reward? The questions posed by the nurturing cycle enable us to access our deepest feelings. The limits cycle contains our feelings and helps them mature. The goal of the method is the interweaving of the skills. Initially, you use the skills intentionally. That moves us from an imbalanced state to one that is balanced.
It's extraordinarily powerful to be at the grocery store, stuck in traffic or home alone with the refrigerator packed with food and know that all you have to do is reach for these skills, and, in a matter of moments, you can move yourself above the line. Your drive to overeat will fade. You'll stop wanting the food. You'll still enjoy it. But, food becomes just food, not a fix.
What's more, the groups are fun. We use a buddy system and a warm and wonderful Internet community for support. (For more information, visit www.thepathway.org or contact The Institute for Health Solutions at 415-457-3331.)
Copyright ? 2005, Weight Loss Buddy Press
We at http://www.weightlossbuddy.com/lm are committed to helping you find a 24/7 buddy who will not only help you lose weight but who also will get you to change to a healthy lifestyle. You choose your own diet and your own exercise regime, and we find you a buddy who literally will stick with you through thick and thin. Signing up for a buddy is free. Simply go to http://www.weightlossbuddy.com/lm
or call 1-877-BUDDY-UP.
Wood Dale Chicago prom limo .. Lockport Chicago limo O’HareYou need to reset your weight-o-stat. No matter how much... Read More
Our bodies only require a small amount of salt for... Read More
Q: "I'm wondering if you can help me. I'm not... Read More
Fifteen Secrets of Safe and Easy Permanent Weight Loss Revealed!*... Read More
I am embarrassed to admit how many different commercial weight... Read More
Lean turkeyLean ground beefChicken breastFish, halibut, orange roughy,More fish, shark,... Read More
A few months ago, I set out to lose 22.6... Read More
Do you compete in sports for weight loss or fat... Read More
Changing habits is one of the most difficult challanges we... Read More
Weight loss information is often confusing and misleading. The more... Read More
Have you ever wondered how actors stay in such great... Read More
Just like any other diet, the Atkins diet can become... Read More
At around ?350 pounds a treatment, Lipo-Dissolve the so called... Read More
There's more to gastric bypass than surgery and rapid massive... Read More
Visualizing and Declarations are today's topics.Visualize what you want as... Read More
I do not smoke, never have, and admit to being... Read More
The fear of success arises in patients when they realize... Read More
It has been 15 years since I was diagnosed with... Read More
Causes of ObesityJust like there is no weight loss pill... Read More
Things get so confusing when it comes to understanding what... Read More
The diary is an essential help in reaching your weight... Read More
"THE SECRET REMEDY OF THE ANCIENT WARRIORS"Since what would seem... Read More
Phentermine, like many other prescription drugs, works with chemicals called... Read More
No doubt about it, when we feel stressed we want... Read More
Weight training combines building muscle tone and working the cardiovascular... Read More
Antigo wedding limo ..Frankie saddled up to the bar at the We-Stuff-Em-All Diner,... Read More
The percentage of Americans who are overweight and obese is... Read More
Using healthy low carb recipes are an important part of... Read More
When you're taking Phentermine, you should go to the emergency... Read More
Diet PillsTaking diet pills is definitely not an effective weight... Read More
Permanent Weight loss is not about Diet. If you are... Read More
REDUCE YOUR WEIGHTNow you are not very far from losing... Read More
That's a pretty "in your face" statement, but really it's... Read More
If you're a low carb diet enthusiast, you've probably tried... Read More
We all have an image of "fit" - lean, even... Read More
The rediscovery of the wealth of the wonder drug Hoodia... Read More
You may have read the old stories about how much... Read More
A diet may be a fad diet or a healthy... Read More
You know you have weighted, err, waited more than enough.... Read More
The perfect diet should be combined with a healthy weight... Read More
I have been seriously working on losing weight for about... Read More
When on a diet, snack attacks can hit hard and... Read More
The government, nutritionists, doctors, and dietitians implore us to eat... Read More
Food is not simply fuel to keep you going. Nor... Read More
You have decided that you want to lose weight and... Read More
Among the most popular forms of dieting is the South... Read More
Maybe you've heard about body dysmorphia ? it's a mental... Read More
WEIGHT LOSS:Nutrition and weight-loss researchers say that some supplements can... Read More
I received a telephone call from a lady last week.... Read More
For the person who wants to shed a few pounds... Read More
Weight Loss |