Do you tend to find your weight increases when you enter into a relationship? During weight management coaching, I use a tool called the "lifeline" to help my client and I understand what life events occurred around the time of gaining and losing weight. As my own experiences testify, I have found that many of us tend to put on weight when we enter into a relationship. Though each person's issues are unique here are a few examples of where those extra pounds might be coming from:
Conflict: There is nothing like relationships to fuel the fires of our emotions! If we find it difficult to assert our feelings, avoid or withdraw, eating can become a way to cope with our feelings.
Self-esteem: Sometimes we feel unconfident about our position in the relationship, or have self-hating thoughts and turn to food to cope.
Lifestyle: Choosing to spend more time snuggled up in front of the television with our loved one can often take the place of activities we were once involved in!
Dietary Habits: So our partner likes fried food better than our grilled options? A change in eating habits to accommodate our loved one can pile on the pounds too!
Alcohol: Eating out or staying in with those extra bottles of wines add on the calories too!
Socializing: He's taking you out but those extra creamy sauces, salty fries, and fried fish all add to the energy input!
Contentment: You found your match and you are just happy be out of the dating game, its time to swap the high heels for comfy slippers, but out comes the box of chocolates to add to the happiness watching your favorite movie together!
So, if gaining love has meant gaining weight, what can we do to make the changes we want? Managing relationships is an important part of managing weight so learning new life skills is vital. You can begin making changes by:
Enlisting Support: Ask you partner to support you, tell him about your struggles and what are the best ways he can help. Maybe, flowers instead of chocolates, bike riding instead of the restaurant?. You decide!
Managing Emotions: If you reach for the cookie jar before or after conflict, learning assertiveness, expressing emotions and conflict resolution skills will give you the tools to manage conflict, speak about what is bothering you and avoid a trip to the fridge!
Increasing activity Getting active is about learning new habits. Rather than setting a goal on your first week to attend the gym 5 days per week, set smaller achievable goals such as parking the car a couple of blocks from work, using the stairs instead of the elevator, using your lunch break for a brisk 10 minute walk etc.
Small food changes: Think in terms of healthier choices rather than eating very little to lose weight. For example, grilling instead of frying, fruit, nuts and dried fruit, instead of chips/crisps and chocolate etc.
Increase self-esteem: Find your worth outside of a relationship and develop your confidence in your abilities and talents will also help you manage your food intake.
Do you know it's time for change? Have you seen that you keep repeating the same mistakes and don't know what to do about it? Would you like to see changes in your spiritual walk, dating life, relationships, eating habits or career? If so, then you can begin to break the damaging patterns in your life by tapping into the resources that are on offer to you at www.donnaintera.net
Joanne is a LifeSkills Coach and trainer, public speaker and writer. She has experience of running lifeskills groups helping adults learn communication and relationship skills. Her passion is working with women overcome damaging patterns in their lives whether that is improving the quality of their dating relationships, finding their purpose or overcoming yo-yo dieting. You can contact her at http://www.donnaintera.net We also offer free sign up to devotionals and articles to help you gain the tools to over come your problems including workshops and coaching to women who want to develop their full potential.
Sign up today and begin living your life free, inspired and empowered!
affordable house cleaning Wilmette ..One of the most talked about topics in any political... Read More
Many gastric bypass patients report frequent spells of dizziness. In... Read More
Disclaimer: I am not a doctor; nor do I play... Read More
Throughout my childhood and teenage years I watched as my... Read More
If you're serious about losing weight and getting fit, you... Read More
I've worked with hundreds of people who were interested in... Read More
Just one more day I can do this, I told... Read More
Dealing with your sweet-tooth can be one of the greatest... Read More
After weight loss surgery it is important to include as... Read More
Obesity in America is at an epidemic level. It is... Read More
In the last 12 months or so, low carbohydrate diets... Read More
Infrared Radiant Heat (IRRH) is a form of radiation that... Read More
The Dr Atkins Diet has been around for ages, but... Read More
In March 2003 our then 13 year old daughter, Helen,... Read More
Low Carb, Low Fat, More protein, Eat all the fat... Read More
You are not a kid any more and becoming a... Read More
It is estimated that about 32 million Americans are following... Read More
Activity means both mental and physical activity.Mental activity is similar... Read More
All of our behavior results from the thoughts that preceded... Read More
One of the most popular diets is the low carb... Read More
An article published in http://www.inch-aweigh.com mentioned, "If you are eating... Read More
For people that are obese, losing weight quickly can seem... Read More
Not losing weight but gaining it is why we are... Read More
Here come the candy canes. In our house, Santa always... Read More
The best exercises for quick weight loss in my opinion... Read More
quick home cleaning Northbrook ..Although liposuction is one of the most commonly performed cosmetic... Read More
Ever heard of the expression, "Getting up on the wrong... Read More
Is it easy to lose weight? Yes. Losing weight is... Read More
We have all set them, and we will revisit them... Read More
Maybe your doctor suggested it. Maybe your favorite outfit doesn't... Read More
Many people want to lose a few of those annoying... Read More
When we discover that we are heavier than we want... Read More
Whenever I hear someone say they just can't lose weight,... Read More
"Hey, you have reduced now, compared to the last time... Read More
It has been 15 years since I was diagnosed with... Read More
You step on the scale and groan at the number... Read More
1. Increase your water intake to at least 1 gallon... Read More
For those of you who aren't familiar with ephedra let... Read More
You may not like what I have to say, even... Read More
"Life would be perfect if only I was thin." That... Read More
It was bad enough hearing almost daily that obesity in... Read More
What is cellulite? Ask a doctor and he will probably... Read More
Welcome to lesson #2. First of all, I believe that... Read More
It happens every morning when you mosey out of bed,... Read More
I just came back from three days in Las Vegas.... Read More
The following are diet tips that can help you shape... Read More
Of all the possible exercises there are to help you... Read More
When people hear the term Unified Theory, some times called... Read More
Believe it or not, losing a little or a lot... Read More
Causes of ObesityJust like there is no weight loss pill... Read More
Weight Loss |